Just yesterday, I was chatting with a friend on facebook. We discussed various issues among which were issues affecting women in matters of interpersonal relationships. I told her that a lot of women lacked the heart required to sustain their relationships. She replied, “All have it, but they don’t show it”.
I gained new insight from the discussion. The real problem with many women is not about what they lack, it’s about what they have but don’t know they have. Women are powerful. They are essentially creatures of influence. Inside them lies the power to attract and sustain the kind of relationships they desire. However, it is vital for them to know the powers they have and then learn how to use those powers. And that’s what I’ll be sharing with you briefly.
Listen to him attentively
Men love attention too. They love to be listened to. Don’t settle for the opinion that only ladies talk and they demand being listened to. Many relationships have grounded because the ladies involved refuse to listen to their men. One of the ways to permanently unlock a man’s heart and keep him glued to you is to always listen to him.
Listening is much more difficult than hearing. That’s why a lot of ladies refuse to practice listening. Hearing has to do with sounds but listening entails much more than hearing sounds. It involves all your senses. You must learn to listen to your man even when he’s not speaking. Listening to a man is being in tune with him with your senses. It’s intentionally channeling all your senses to capture and decode every signal the man is broadcasting. It’s the art of “sensing his senses”. You need to train yourself to be a sensual decoder. Do more than hearing his words. Understand his body languages. Watch his facial expressions. Interpret his moods and understand his silence.
Talk to him actively.
Don’t just be a talkative. Talk actively. There’s a widespread notion that ladies don’t think. The truth is that the quality of your words is a reflection of your thoughts. Think before you talk. Men are moved by words too. The best way to piss a man off is to talk without thinking. Men find ladies who think before they talk as confident, competent and capable.
Furthermore, learn to express your feelings in words. Learn to make your words consistent with your feelings. Tell him how you feel. Be passionate. Stop sending conflicting signals. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Be slow to speak. Learn to speak softly. Stop talking to your man like his mother or his boss. Let the woman in you connect with the man in him. Treat him like a man. Speak to the Man in him.
Touch him responsibly
Men love to be touched and ladies must learn to take the initiative too. You don’t have to give the erotic approach; that would only arouse his sexual desire. Make him feel good and happy by touching him casually. Hold his hands. Touch his shoulders. Put your arms around his neck. Give him a peck. Hug him. All these actions create a lasting impression in men’s memories. They make him think of you. That‘s the secret to been on a man’s mind all the time.
Learn to look straight into his eyes.
Eye contact is an essential ingredient of good communication. You must learn to maintain eye contact with him while speaking with him and sometimes while no talking is going on. Establish a connection with his heart through his eyes.
Always make him feel comfortable around you.
Never make a man feel uncomfortable around you. Men have ego and they love been respected and appreciated. Don’t capitalize on his flaws or inadequacies. Don’t talk him down among your friends especially in his presence.
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